I have this friend I go fishing with often. We probably have gone on dozens of trips over the years.
He drives me crazy.
He was always catching fish in what I would consider the most unlikely places. Still does.
You know those foam lines that can form in back eddies or along the banks of a river? You know how a river can cascade down thru a shallow riffle as it flows?
The first time I saw a fish caught in the middle of a foam line, I assumed it was a fluke.
I have seen trout caught in what looks like an inch of flowing water.
Those used to be no fish zones for me. I stress, used to be, because I have learned my lesson. I would typically ignore these spots on the river, figuring what fish is going to be hanging in the foam. The foam is usually dirty and we all know trout like clean, cold water.
The shallow riffles are just that, really shallow. I cannot tell you how many times my friend caught fish in a shallow riffle I completely ignored. That doesn’t happen much today, but I would say that at least once a year my friend will fish a spot on the river that I skipped right over.
See, I never even tried to fish those spots in the past. My thought (not based on fact by the way) was that foam lines do not hold fish, so I didn’t fish them, even after seeing it work over and over.
My assumption was that the shallow riffles didn’t hold fish, not enough water. Again, not based on fact, it was based on my own beliefs and thoughts.
My own beliefs and thoughts
Have you found yourself not willing to take action because in your mind (be it true or not) you have already decided what the outcome will be?
Have you found yourself not willing to take action because you have made up all kinds of assumptions about the difficulties you might face during the journey?
Limiting Beliefs. This topic has come up for me frequently over the last couple of years.
Tim, you worked in corporate America for 25 years, so that is the only option.
Tim, you certainly cannot pursue your dream and make a living, only the lucky few get to do that.
Tim, you cannot change your career after 25 years. You’re too engrained. The golden handcuffs have you locked in. Besides, you can retire in 10 or 15 years and you will be set.
Tim, your kids are still in college, what are you thinking? It’s too risky to change anything.
See, limiting beliefs can keep you from taking action, just like I never tried to fish foam lines or shallow riffles. (Keep reading below if you want the truth about foam lines and shallow riffles.)
So, if you want to make a big change in some area of your life, but have limiting beliefs or have already decided how it will play out, what can you do to overcome those thoughts?
TAKE ACTION/GET MOVING/DO SOMETHING
I am not even sure it matters what exactly, but do something.
Sometimes this just comes down to taking steps to get educated and a curious mind.
I just made a huge change in my life. Dis-satisfied with my current career and how it was impacting me and my family, I left corporate America to start a new business.
It was not out of the blue. I didn’t wake up one day and quit my job to go find my bliss. It was carefully planned and required moving, even when I did not know exactly where I was going.
Did I have limiting thoughts throughout the process? Did I bust the myths I had formed in my head? You bet. I went after them by taking action, consistent action.
Sometimes I didn’t know where the action would take me, but I didn’t care.
I was moving. I was working it. I was fishing for it. I was fighting for it.
So, if you find yourself paralyzed by your own thoughts and pre-determined outcomes that you have not tested, go test them.
Here are 10 actions you can take to bust your own internal myths and get a different perspective:
- Read a book. Books are great ways to get additional insights on just about anything.
- Attend a webinar online – There are tons of free webinars online covering a wide array of topics these days. You might have to put up with a sales pitch at the end but some have good information.
- Go watch a Ted talk on You Tube. There are some great talks out there. Just search for a topic.
- Go find someone who blogs about the topic you are interested in. Trust me, with today’s online environment there are individuals out there with platforms on a ton of topics. (Health, Career, Entrepreneurship, Knitting (LOL) etc.)
- Go find someone who has done what you want to do. Find a way to get introduced and interview them.
- Attend a seminar in person or another live event.
- Start a journal. This is a great way to get to know yourself better.
- Be consistent. Find one activity you can do weekly. I have found consistent action builds momentum.
- Test your myth with someone that knows you well. A mentor, spouse, best friend etc.
- Don’t stop moving.
You never know what you might learn or, in my case, what fish you might catch.
PS – If you find yourself stuck by limiting beliefs – I can help. Go to my coaching page here and at the bottom request and complete a Lay of the Land Questionnaire. Once I have received it, I will schedule a complimentary call to get you pointed in the right direction. I promise to give you 3 actions you can take right now to get moving on that big goal or dream of yours.
PSS – Here is what I discovered about foam lines and shallow riffles.
Fish love foam lines, because food gets trapped in the foam and if you find the food you find the trout.
Shallow riffles are great highly oxygenated water that is excellent for aquatic insects. Find the food, find the trout.