I ran across this TED talk months ago. Larry Smith is an economist who clearly understands more than just numbers. You will probably find this video funny, but you also might find it hard to listen to the excuses people use for not pursuing their passions or dreams. You may even recognize a few.
BUT, before you click to watch the video, I want to share how I overcame my excuses for not pursuing my passions and dreams.
About 5 years ago when my daughter was in the 4th grade, she had an assignment. I cannot remember the specifics, but the students were told to write down wishes, or what they wished they could change.
At this point in time I was about 2 years into a job that was literally hair on fire. Lots of cost pressure and working a lot of nights with factories in China. I was tired, stressed and probably not a ton of fun to be around and not around much anyway.
My daughter’s wish was that her dad could find a job he liked.
My heart sank.
I literally stopped dead in my tracks when I discovered what she had written. I was overwhelmed with quilt.
- I didn’t want my kids worrying about me. I am the parent. I get to worry about them.
- I didn’t want my kids thinking work sucked. (It definitely can be difficult at times, but it should be a source of joy and contentment)
- I didn’t want my kids thinking, hey, why go to school and get a job, Dad hates work.
- And I certainly did not want my kids to watch me tolerate a job I did not enjoy. (What kind of message was that sending?)
I wish I could say I changed my attitude or changed my work. I did neither and the hair on fire job got bigger and bigger.
BUT, I could not shake the wish my daughter had for me.
So, in 2012 I started working a plan to get out of the corporate world and find work that I loved.
My daughter’s wish for me was motivation to keep going, keep planning and keep searching.
I executed the final piece of the puzzle in May, when I quit my corporate job.
Now, instead of wondering why Dad hates his job, we are having conversations like this during a hike on Father’s Day.
Daughter – Dad, the name of your new business, Fishing for the Good Life is cool. I really like it.
Me: Thanks honey, but when you hear Fishing for the Good Life, what does that mean to you?
Daughter: Fishing is the good life? Or something like that.
Me: Well, Fishing is one aspect of the good life to me, but how else is the word “fishing” used in our vocabulary.
Daughter: (she paused for a minute), oh, I get it – Fishing for the Good Life is about pursuing the good life and things that matter.
Below is a painting my son gave me for Father’s Day, with a nice handwritten message on the back. My son and I have had our ups and downs, but his message was filled with a deep connection we have not experienced in some time.
I am fairly certain neither of those conversations would have happened without the changes I have made in my work and life.
Pursuing you passion matters!
Not just to you, but those around you.
So if kids notice, Who else is noticing? What about your life in general? Would your relationships and life be better if you pursued those big goals and dreams? How would it feel? What could happen? What is possible?
Don’t let your current circumstances or the excuse of the day stop you from pursuing your dreams.
Drop me a note, I would love to hear about what you are doing to pursue your big goals and passions.
PS – Go watch the video now. It will get you thinking. Also, if you are struggling to make a change in your life, then do these 2 things and I will get you pointed in the right direction.
- Go to my coaching page here and request a Lay of the Land questionnaire (Bottom of page)
- Fill it out, send it to me and I will give you a complimentary coaching session. In this session I will give you 2 or 3 actions you can take right now that will move you closer to your big goal.