A buddy and I were on a canoe trip in Canada several years back. We were halfway thru a 6-day trip and it had been perfect. Lots of fish, great weather and nobody dumped their canoe.
We were fishing one afternoon and took a break to have some lunch. My buddy turned to me and asked,
“So Tim, Are you happy with your life?”
I was speechless – Major RED FLAG.
This is a question that you should be able to answer immediately, right? Not only was I speechless, but I gave a lame answer about a great family, good job, blah, blah, blah. I gave an answer he expected, not one that was genuine.
I felt like a phony.
To be honest, I had not really given it much thought. How often does anyone sit down and really evaluate his life. Not just your career or your family, but all aspects. Who does that?
When was the last time you sat down and evaluated these categories in your life?
Career – Are you doing what you should be doing and does it have a purpose that gives you great pleasure? Are you using your skills, abilities and gifts to help others?
Family – How are your relationships with your wife, kids or other family members?
Financial – Do you make the income you desire? Are you spending less than you make?
Spiritual – Do you have a spiritual life that brings peace?
Intellectual – Are you learning new things?
Friends – Do you have others in your life you can go to when needed?
Physical – What kind of shape are you in? Are you active?
Sounds daunting, doesn’t it? Who has time for that and why bring up old desires that aren’t possible?
I know, most of us are just trying to hang onto that job, or find some time with the kids. We hope our income covers our household expenses. Our dreams, deep desires and other interests have long been forgotten. It all seems like a blur.
I wish I could say my buddy’s question led to some great revelation and I immediately took action to work on these critical areas. Sadly, it did not. But it did get me thinking deeply about these areas and what defines a good life.
While that answer is different for everybody, if you want an abundant life, you have to take steps. You have to be intentional. You have to know your story and your values to create a life that is yours. This life is defined by you, not by what others expect.
Ready to take that first step?
First Step Toward An Abundant Life
If you want to tackle the questions that matter (like, “Are you happy with your life?”), you have to get out of your current environment. You can’t answer these questions in a conference room or in your study after dinner.
Join me for a retreat, April 23-26th in Fort Smith, Montana, home to the Big Horn River.
No, we are not going to “fix you” on this trip. You don’t need fixing. You need space.
This is an opportunity for you to create some space for you to remember:
- What makes you come alive? What gets you excited?
- What is lost that you want to find again?
- What defines the good life for you?
This is not just a fishing trip. Seriously, you don’t even need to know how to fish. We are going to fish some, but we will also laugh, grill steaks, tell stories and create some new memories and maybe you will remember some forgotten ones.
My wish for you is to come alive again, rekindle those long forgotten desires and create a few tangible actions that will lead you towards the life you want.
Find more details at http://fishingforthegoodlife.com/april-2015-retreat/.
Hope to see you on the river. – Tim